Many Connecticut children go from residing with both parents to moving back and forth between single parent households when their parents’ marriages end. Although some children are able to adapt to their new lifestyles others suffer tremendous emotional trauma. Since most parents want what’s best for their children, especially in divorce, some are trying a new type of parenting plan that allows children to remain in the same home they shared when their parents were married.
This new system is catching on in many areas. It’s called “nesting,” and it involves parents coming and going to stay with children in the original house they shared pre-divorce. It all works on a rotating schedule, and when it’s not a parent’s turn to reside with the kids, he or she simply lives in a separate residence. Many people believe divorce nesting causes much less disruption to children’s lives, which in turn may help them better adjust to their new situations.
A woman who shares a nesting plan with her former spouse said she’s never quite sure how people will react when she explains it to them. One woman, for instance, began to cry, saying she wishes her own parents would have done things that way after divorce because her younger sister was always so upset when it came time for the children to switch houses. Parents can negotiate the particular terms of their own nesting plans then submit their ideas to the court for approval.
A family law attorney can help any Connecticut parent who wishes to learn more about post divorce nesting. When parents act in their children’s best interests, it’s often possible to create an amicable plan that’s agreeable to all those involved. An attorney can address any problem that arises.
Source: The New York Times, “After Divorce, Giving Our Kids Custody of the Home”, Beth Behrendt, May 30, 2017