The breakdown of a marriage can have serious repercussions with regard to both individuals and any children involved. However, Connecticut residents who have been through divorce can attest that planning ahead for potential issues can save a lot of time and heartache in the long run. It is not easy to remain emotionally impartial during a divorce, but planning ahead can help to mitigate the most contentious issues.
Of course, the first and most common issue that comes up in divorce proceedings is usually money. Both parties may have debts and assets, individually and as a couple. Depending on state laws governing the division of both, it can be a complicated process. Agreeing on big issues like who gets the house or whether to sell a family vehicle can smooth that road and make it easier for determining who gets what in terms of dollars and cents.
A somewhat more complicated issue is that of child support and custody. This is where many arguments come to a head as the difference between time spent and money spent can be a hot button issue. It can be valuable for both parties to retain an understanding that what's best for the children is ultimately what matters, and that it is the responsibility of both parents to work toward a solution that will benefit the kids.
While none of this preplanning is by any means guaranteed to be easy or without its problems, Connecticut residents have many support options available to them during the divorce process. Seeking out mediators and other professionals to help plan ahead and answer difficult questions ahead of time can make a big difference in how a divorce is handled. Ideally, it can help both parties and any children involved to move forward in a positive way.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Divorce Lessons: 8 Critical Choices in Making a Positive Split", John McElhenney, August 5, 2014