When it comes to violent crime, Connecticut residents are surely aware that anyone can be a victim. Despite this knowledge, many people may feel truly shocked by recent headlines that tell the story of two police officers who now stand accused of domestic violence. The incident is a testament to the sad truth that lives can change in an instant when domestic situations get out of hand.
It is unfair to paint an entire gender with the same paintbrush. Although 85 percent of domestic violence victims are women and most of the violence is perpetrated by men, not all men are abusers. In fact, most aren't. Violence that is gender based is not just a women's issue -- it's one that pertains to society in general. Education and engagement of boys and men is crucial, experts say, for thwarting domestic violence in Connecticut and elsewhere.
Being in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship can have lasting effects on both parties involved. Add in the fact that technology gives the abuser access to one's location, the ability to read text messages and listen to phone calls, making the abuse even more disturbing. The legality of the use of spyware in domestic violence cases is new and the system is having a hard time figuring the legality of such actions. Domestic violence victims and their advocates in Connecticut are learning just how invasive such spyware can be.
When one hears the words domestic abuse, many think of violent physical attacks. Although this stands to be true in many instances in Connecticut, financial abuse is often just as emotionally devastating. This aspect of spousal abuse can create the same feelings of isolation and vulnerability, especially as these instances occur behind closed doors and are often not discussed with family and close friends.
Any relationship can sometimes be difficult to navigate and the resolution to a disagreement can be hard to navigate. Even those who find themselves in the spotlight with fame and fortune are not immune. Conflict can have a way of bringing out the worst in a person, and the tendency toward violence that may not have been an issue in the early phases of a relationship can rear its hurtful head. Should domestic violence become an issue in any Connecticut relationship, finding help for both the victim and the abuser is crucial to saving lives.
Survivors of domestic abuse often assume that when they leave an abusive relationship, sole custody will be automatically awarded to the non-offending parent. Many have found this not to be the case, and the abuser often uses the children and the court system to continue to exert control over the relationship and the abused. Connecticut domestic violence survivors may find hope in a congressional resolution that has been introduced that would minimize, if not eliminate, coercive control.
Connecticut currently holds the highest rate of dual arrest in regards to domestic abuse arrests. Victims of domestic violence who decide to take a stand against their abuser and physically fight back may find themselves charged with domestic abuse, even though they were not the dominant aggressor. New legislation is currently being sought to change the wording to allow Connecticut police to make the distinction and, hopefully, encourage more victims to speak out.
Most people who do not suffer from the abuse at the hands of another assume that the violence takes place between spouses or those in an intimate relationship. Anyone can suffer from domestic violence, as it can happen to anyone in a domestic setting, like a marriage or cohabitation. One Connecticut man was recently taken into custody after allegedly assaulting his mother and fleeing the scene.
Relationships and marriages may end for any number of reasons, but none may be quite so upsetting or dangerous as abuse. Domestic violence is an extremely sensitive topic that can be difficult to discuss, but victims of abuse can seek protection through Connecticut's legal system. In most cases, protections against an abusive partner or ex can be put into place even in the absence of an arrest.
Connecticut couples learn to adapt and adjust as time and circumstance impact their relationships. Life changes, such as the birth of a child, a new career or the death of a loved one, can impact a relationship and cause stress. Even an injury to one spouse can create the beginnings of change in a once blissful and happy relationship. When the stress begins to turn into domestic violence, one should seek help, and leaving the relationship may be the only option.